This Husband Talked About Why He Doesn’t Help His Wife, And People Actually Love His Reasons

“I do not help my wife clean the house because …”

One viral Facebook post titled “I do not help my wife” is spreading like wildfire because of its unexpected, powerful message on partnership in marriage. The husband’s story has a surprising twist you won’t want to miss.

The story starts out about a friend who pays a visit. After a while of sitting and talking, the husband stands up and says he’ll be right back – he just needs to wash the dishes.

“He looked at me as if I had told him I was going to build a space rocket,” the man explained. “Then he said to me with admiration but a little perplexed: ‘I’m glad you help your wife, I do not help because when I do, my wife does not praise me. Last week I washed the floor and no thanks.'”

Instead of heading to the dishes, the husband sat back down with his friend to teach him a valuable lesson that every married person – male and female – should take to heart.

Hundreds of thousands of people are celebrating the message of this post – that neither partner in a relationship should have the mindset that they’re doing a grand, praiseworthy deed by mopping the floor (or any other normal household chore). Rather, both men and women should have the mindset that they’re equal partners who share household work just as they share a house.

While every couple’s situation is unique when it comes to each partner’s time and capabilities, it’s important to remember that both spouses are a part of the home and that no one spouse should be solely in charge of chores.

The full post reads:

“I do not help my wife.
A friend came to my house for coffee, we sat and talked about life. At some point in the conversation, I said, “I’m going to wash the dishes and I’ll be right back.”
He looked at me as if I had told him I was going to build a space rocket. Then he said to me with admiration but a little perplexed: “I’m glad you help your wife, I do not help because when I do, my wife does not praise me. Last week I washed the floor and no thanks.”
I went back to sit with him and explained that I did not “help” my wife. Actually, my wife does not need help, she needs a partner. I am a partner at home and through that society are divided functions, but it is not a “help” to do household chores.
I do not help my wife clean the house because I live here too and I need to clean it too.
I do not help my wife to cook because I also want to eat and I need to cook too.
I do not help my wife wash the dishes after eating because I also use those dishes.
I do not help my wife with her children because they are also my children and my job is to be a father.
I do not help my wife to wash, spread or fold clothes, because the clothes are also mine and my children.
I am not a help at home, I am part of the house. And as for praising, I asked my friend when it was the last time after his wife finished cleaning the house, washing clothes, changing bed sheets, bathing her children, cooking, organizing, etc. You said thank you
But a thank you of the type: Wow, sweetheart !!! You are fantastic!!!
Does that seem absurd to you? Are you looking strange? When you, once in a lifetime, cleaned the floor, you expected in the least, a prize of excellence with great glory … why? You never thought about that, my friend?
Maybe because for you, the macho culture has shown that everything is her job.
Perhaps you have been taught that all this must be done without having to move a finger? Then praise her as you wanted to be praised, in the same way, with the same intensity. Give her a hand, behave like a true companion, not as a guest who only comes to eat, sleep, bathe and satisfy needs … Feel at home. In his house.
The real change of our society begins in our homes, let us teach our sons and daughters the real sense of fellowship! ” – TeeEdwards

h/t: familyshare